single |ˈsɪŋg(ə)l| adjective1 [ attrib. ] only one; not one of several: a single red rose | the kingdom was ruled over by a single family.• regarded as distinct from each other or others in a group: she was single. 2 unmarried or not involved in a stable sexual relationship: a single mother.

When it comes to relationships, the word “single” often carries a negative connotation. Yet, we have all been single at one point in our lives. Many of us have gone from relationship to relationship trying to find the “perfect one” or our so-called, soul mate.

I am happily married now, but I remember the seasons in my life where I wondered when (or if ever) I would find someone to spend the rest of my life with. That’s why I wanted to write a specific blog for singles–men, women, young, old, never married, divorced or separated. I believe God created us for relationships–to give love and to be loved. This blog is for you!

My Story
Meeting Field was all God’s doing. Everything before that day, and from that day on is proof of what faith can do. He is absolutely amazing, and I am incredibly blessed to have him to love.

I waited (for what seemed like forever) for the perfect man for me–a man after God’s own heart. We crossed paths at 30 years old, and it was love at first sight. I was living in Laredo at the time, and came to Dallas to visit friends. We were all hanging out on the Black Friar patio, and I caught Field’s eye. He came over to talk to me and asked me out. I knew he would be my husband after our very first date!

The back patio of a Dallas pub was the last place I expected to meet the love of my life, but I suppose that’s when most people meet their special someone–when they least expect it.

Now, I thank God every day that I waited for the man that He set aside just for me.

Prepare for Marriage While You’re Single
The single years of your life are meant to prepare you for marriage and living the rest of your life with someone else. Enjoy your single life, but also be praying for the person that you will marry someday.

I prayed for Field for many years before I met him. I knew I wanted a man that would be my best friend, but also someone who would lead and guide me and our family spiritually. I wanted a leader, a lover and a giver. God exceeded my expectations with Field.

A few months before meeting Field, I had just finished reading A Woman After God’s Own Heart, A Wife After God’s Own Heart, and The Power of a Praying Wife. As a single woman, it seemed odd to be reading these books (and I admittedly removed the covers when reading them in public *grin*), but I had no idea of what being a great wife looked like. I knew that getting married and being a good wife was a desire of my heart, so I wanted to do whatever I could to prepare myself for this future blessing.

While I was single, I paid off all my debt and read every book written on marriage and being a great wife. But most importantly, I learned how to put and keep God first in my life because I knew that if I couldn’t do that while I was single (working full time and putting myself through grad school), I would never know how to do that once I had the additional responsibilities of being a wife and a mother. Then, I met Field…  

Never Settle for Less Than God’s Best
I knew the day that I met a man that I could pray with and spend intimate time with together in God’s presence would be the day that I would find God’s best for me–my future husband. There is no greater intimacy than this between a husband and a wife. I learn everything about Field’s heart through our time in prayer. God speaks through us when we pray, and when we do, we share the deepest, most authentic part of ourselves.

I had never experienced the level of spiritual intimacy I had experienced with Field with anyone else that I had dated. Others knew of God, but didn’t have a personal relationship with Him. It seemed as if their lives didn’t line up with what they claimed to believe, and that just never felt right to me.

I am forever grateful that I waited for Field because he is literally the greatest reflection of God’s love on earth to me. His love and desire to serve God set him apart from every other person I had ever met.

Field is my biggest motivator. He encourages me, supports my dreams, loves me unconditionally, teaches me about balance daily, pushes me, challenges me, allows me to grow, pours into me spiritually, prays with me daily, teaches me to dream bigger, to think bigger and to expect bigger things in life. He reads the Bible every day of his life in order to lead our family to places only God can direct.

Don’t settle for less than God’s best for you. The person you marry will be the person who you wake up to for the rest of your life. They will be the father or mother of your children. They will be your encouragement, your support and your life partner–forever. I am so glad I dared to pray for God’s best for me!

Enjoy Your Life!
The best piece of advice that I can give to all singles is: to enjoy your single life! So many young women that I meet put so much emphasis on “getting married” and “their life after marriage”. It’s almost as if they don’t start living until they have walked down the aisle. Believe me when I tell you, that you are just as significant of a person whether you are married or not! Your life is happening today–enjoy it, and make the most of it!

Remember, you are loved, significant and worthy of waiting for the right person to spend the rest of your life with. Learn to love and respect yourself to set the bar where it should be for someone else. You’re worth it!

XO-
Sabrina  

I can’t imagine spending my life with anyone else. I love you forever, Field Harrison!